Writing Penpals Is A Great Hobby
Many hobbies can be expensive and sometimes require equipment before you can start to follow your chosen interest. All you need to get started in penpalling is a pen, notepad, envelope and a stamp. You can write letters almost anywhere and at any time, so it’s easy to fit this hobby around a busy life. I began writing to penpals when I was eight years old, and have twelve of my original penfriends.
A penpal can become a lifelong friend, and will help you to discover more about other countries. Sharing the ups and downs of life with a friend through letters can be immensely therapeutic. Its much easier to confide in people who live hundreds of miles away.
The fastest and easiest way to get started in your quest to find a penfriend is to go online. There are hundreds of websites offering penpals, but it pays to do a little research before committing yourself. http://www.interpals.net/ and http://penpalsnow.com/ are two very good places to look for penpals online.
The free sites often look attractive but paying a small fee may allow you access to people who are serious about finding a penpal rather than just looking for a date or future spouse. You can either choose to write to one or more of the people listed, or enter your own details for potential penpals to write to you. Websites which allow you to state your age and hobbies can help you attract penpals you have something in common with. Writing people with similar interests is often a good idea, if you do not plan on investing time researching.
Another good option is to look for penpal sections in print magazines. Many specialist magazines, for example on the topics of horses, stamp collecting etc, have small adverts for penpals and having a shared hobby can be a great starting point for a friendship. Found my first penpals in the back of a horse magazine. These penpals made me lots of friendship books “fb’s” slams and cram sheets, which got passed around the world. Each person affixed their address label so I could write them. When the friendship book got filled, the last person to have it, sent them home to me. I always specify long letter pals because I enjoy reading a long letter. In a few months I began receiving gifts from around the world, and became hooked. Its so much fun getting the mail each day and wondering if there will be a gift inside.
After you’ve found your penpal, you can get started. The first letters are often the hardest to write, as with other friendships, you’re finding common ground to start with. It can be tempting to launch into a full description of yourself and your life story, but try to keep back some information for future letters. Lots of people decorate their envelopes with stickers or glitter. Part of my penfriends are swappers. They trade stuff like stationary, fridge magnets, stamps etc. Heavy swappers trade lots of items.
Once you’ve exchanged a few letters, it’s nice to swap photos to put a face to a name. You could also exchange postcards of your home towns and local area. I only give photos to the people I write snail mail through the post office. People who write you a hand written letter, are in it for the long haul generally.
Please do not feel you have to write back to your penpal immediately after you receive their letter. Wait a few days if you can, so you have more news to share. I usually send my penpals one letter a week. When I was 8-16 I mailed them a letter right after I received theirs. With the climbing prices of postage some penpals want you to send them their stamp back for reuse. Do not put glue or tape on stamps so you can use them over and over. This practice is illegal.
1. Do be aware of your safety, particularly in the early stages of a friendship. Obviously, you’ll be giving out personal information, but it’s best not to mention details such as information about your school or job.
2. Don’t feel you have to confine yourself to penpals who are very similar to you. Part of the fun of penpalling is discovering more about other countries and cultures. Someone of a different age or with differing family circumstances can still be a fascinating friend.
3. Do ask some questions in every letter. It’s not being nosy; it’s a way of keeping the dialogue going and learning about your new penfriend.
4. Don’t be tempted to write to too many people when you first start out. You might be very enthusiastic to start with, but could find yourself overwhelmed and with little time to reply to everyone. Nobody likes getting a short reply.
5. Do give your penfriend a fair chance, but don’t feel tied to the friendship for life. If you feel the penfriendship isn’t going anywhere, write politely and perhaps explain that you’ve become too busy with work or things at home and unfortunately won’t be able to write anymore. This is kinder than simply not writing back to them at all.
6. Don’t fall into the trap of standard letters. Some penpals do write a general letter on a computer and send this out to everyone. If you personalise this with some paragraphs written just for that penfriend, most people won’t mind. But no one likes to feel they’ve received a round-robin newsletter in place of a personal letter. Once I got to sending out form letters and lost half my penpals.
7. Do enjoy the experience of communicating with new people around the world. Once you get started, this is a hobby you might keep for life.
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